Starting with a Thank you
My first Tumblr blog.
And as this will be about my experiences as a mummy I want to start with a thank you some groups of mummy (and daddy) friends
At one of those times where 50% of the time at least one of the girls has been crying/clingy/grumpy it is very easy to feel isolated. More so as a mother of two as getting out and doing anything is that much trickier than it is with one. (Imagine: nappy change Emily, get change bag ready, attempt to get Freyja dressed in something appropriate amidst her protestations that she should be able to go outside in her Peppa Pig slippers, then change Emily again as she has filled her nappy and then step out the front door to find it is now raining).
However, it’s times like these I feel grateful for the support network I have so I want to thank these people for maintaining my sanity and so much more.
To my “in the same boat as you” mummy friends. I am so lucky that you have been going through the same as me with children of the same age. Thank you for understanding sleep-deprivation. There must be some strange phenomenon which means fellow sleep-deprived mummies are able to communicate effectively with each other, even though to the average non-sleep deprived adult you would seem incoherent.
And those of you with older little ones of Freyja’s age: the times when I have just wanted to hug you when you have told me how your little one is also refusing to eat anything other than wotsits / throwing tantrums in public / unexplained change in sleeping behaviour or just being a sod. Thank you for making me feel like it’s not “just me”.
To my “been there done that” mummies. You are my inspiration. You are my “light at the end of the tunnel”. After days/weeks/months of whatever parenting nightmare I seem to be going through, I know that you have managed to get through this so so can I. Any those of you with two or more children, you are amazing.
To my “drop everything when I need you friends” – and this especially includes family. I am extremely lucky to have this support. Thank you being that extra pair of hands, for getting me those cups of tea when I am stuck with a continuously breastfeeding baby, for letting me get those few hours extra sleep in and for being my safety net.
Thank you to those mummy friends who are my friends regardless of whether we have children or not. Thank you for sharing adult conversations that don’t revolve around poo, teething and lack of sleep. Thank you for letting me be me and not just “Freyja and Emily’s mom”. But also thank you for understanding on mummy evenings out why I need to check my phone every few minutes “just in case”.
And finally thank you to those mummy friends who enjoy cake. There are times when it’s hard to leave the house, but an invitation to join a mummy for coffee and cake has meant I have had to get out, and by doing so have had an adult conversation and a huge slab of calorie-rich goodness with someone who won’t judge me and my choice of triple chocolate slice with cream (because breastfeeding and other mothering activities need extra calories right?).
And no matter what the girls have in store for me, you can never underestimate the power of a good chat and a big slice of cake.