Spending some time together with my big girl
I used to think it was a shame for Emily as she had never had me all to herself as Freyja did in the first two years of her life. However, since Freyja has started school, I do get to spend lots of quality time with Emily. And she gets to choose what we do. She definitely hasn’t had a tough time with being the second born. All this time spent with Emily, has really made me aware of how important it is to make sure that Freyja does get some quality time with just me, and away from her sister.
It does surprise me when I ask Freyja what it is that she would like to do together, as she never comes up with some elaborate or expensive activity. She just genuinely wants to spend some time together. Although, food usually comes into the plan at some point – she is her mother’s daughter!
On this occasion, she was keen to go to the cinema to see Moana. We decided to see a late morning showing in Gloucester and then have lunch together. She chose where we would sit in the cinema, and I told her she could choose where to eat after the film. It was so nice just being with her. We held hands tightly as we headed towards the cinema. Almost every other sentence she said was about how excited she was or how happy she was to be with me without Emily.
Freyja still held my hand as much as possible during the film – although not when she was munching popcorn. We saw a trailer for Beauty and The Beast before Moana started, and Freyja asked me if we could go and see that. I was a little worried that spending a couple of hours sat watching a film together may be a bit of a waste of this precious time together. But it was lovely. Every-so-often, Freyja would whisper something to me during the film, or just turn to me and smile and occasionally, when things got a bit scary, she would abandon her seat and snuggle up with me on my lap.
After the film, Freyja decided on Pizza Express. It is one of her favourite places to eat at the moment as she loves the dough balls, chicken pizza, ice cream and bambinochino from the kids menu as well as the colouring/stickers they provide to keep her occupied. I couldn’t help but smile as she drew various scenes from Moana on the sides of her hat. It was nice to be able to chat about what she enjoyed about the film and what she is enjoying at school. She is such a lovely, funny and caring girl. I sat there with her just thoroughly enjoying her company, bursting with love for her and thinking to myself how immensely proud I am of her.
I am a mum of two. Two individuals. And although spending time together as a family is so important to me, so also is spending some time together individually with both of my girls. Appreciating their unique personalities and the things that they enjoy doing.