Along comes number two
After the initial excitement of being pregnant with Emily came the inevitable concern with how Freyja would adjust to becoming a big sister. Being the eldest of three I couldn’t stop thinking about how she would now have to share mummy and daddy with her new sibling. “She’ll just have to deal with it.” my husband reassured me. He’s a younger brother, so I guess that would be his attitude towards having a sibling.
I talked to Freyja quite a bit during my pregnancy about the baby inside mummy’s tummy. She used to give me a suspicious look, perhaps thinking if I had eaten a baby, and that was the reason it was inside me. We decided to go for a 4D scan, with the hope that maybe if she could see the baby it might make it all a bit more real. At the scan she was initially very excited. However, this seemed to stem from the TV screen present in the room and she was not too pleased that she was unable to watch CBeebies on it.
Towards the end of my pregnancy Freyja started to insist that the baby was inside her tummy, and would lift up her top when you asked her where the baby was.
The first night when baby Emily arrived into the world was my first (and still my only) night away from Freyja. I was really looking forward to her visiting me in hospital, but very anxious thinking about how she would react to her new little sister. I had nothing to worry about. Pretty much the first thing she said was “where’s baby Emily?”
Freyja is the best big sister that anyone could want. Every morning she wants to see Emily and she loves (carefully supervised) cuddles with her. She brings Emily toys, plays with her in the baby gym and used to rock Emily in her swing chair (a little too vigorously I thought but Emily LOVED IT). It would be naive to even suggest there is no jealousy as nothing can get Freyja demanding “mommy cuddles” faster than a “hungry cry” from Emily, even if she is sat quietly playing with her toys. But Freyja is always kind and caring with Emily, and very tolerant as her little sister grabs handfuls of her hair. And Emily absolutely adores her big sister. Even if she is feeding, Freyja walking across the room will get her full attention.
Having two children, fairly close in age was always going to be hard work, but I am hoping that they will play with each other and grow up to be good friends. In the meantime, I am going to enjoy the one sound which is even better than one of them giggling – the sound of the pair of them laughing at each other, because sisters are hilarious aren’t they?!